be selfish

what is it to be selfish? what comes to your mind? what feelings do you have around being selfish?

i challenge you to have positive feelings about being selfish and to become incredibly selfish.

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being selfish is prioritizing you, what’s most important to you, and most importantly taking care of you. when you take care of you, you are more available to care and give to others. you are able to be present in the moment.

have you ever done what i have (and still do at times) – run around to get things done for you and others in your family, and when you think you are going to sit down and relax a little you remember a list of household chores you “need” to get done and family “needs” that only you can do?

it leaves me feeling depleted with no energy for myself or for others, i’m not able to give to those most important to me (including myself) what i truly want to give – being fully present.

stop doing all those “need to-dos” and become selfish. add selfishness into your life to become more, and be able to give more.  prioritize yourself for 5 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour, a whole day. prioritizing yourself reinvigorates and rejuvenates you.

you will be able to be fully present for yourself and for the other people most important in your life. and those pesky “need to-dos” get done too and don’t seem so pesky anymore.

what is it that you can do to become selfish? what have you wanted to do and haven’t done lately? take a walk, soak in the tub, read a book, go fishing, play a favorite game, get a massage, go out for coffee, enjoy a favorite hobby, enjoy a favorite sport, take a nap…

what will you do this week to be selfish?

live your truth!

how old are you?

did i just make you cringe? what feelings do you have when you are asked how old you are? many people wonder why someone wants to know, thoughts of what are they going to tell me to be aware of or watch out for. many of us start thinking about what we are supposed to expect at a coming age, what dire changes are up ahead?

do you have expectations for different ages? did you, do you, look forward to certain things happening at each age? 

does any of what you expect seem like fun to you? it seems to me that aging has a negative feeling connected to it, people don’t want to get older or admit how old they are because there are more negative associations with aging than positive.

does your age in years define any part of your life? do you let age determine what you can and can’t do? or what you decide to do or not do? why?

i don’t believe any of it. why should age influence what you want? age doesn’t define you. why not go for what you want no matter what your age. experiences are more to living than age, so let your age beliefs go and focus on experiences.

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as i “age” my experiences are expanding and i’m becoming more wise and free from judgement. i’m learning more about who i am, what i like, what i want to enjoy and bring into my life. i look forward to many activities and experiences.

and i’ll let you in on a little secret, age doesn’t have anything to do with what we can and can’t do! yes, as we age, we definitely change, but i believe more of our age beliefs are in our head and not in our body and mind.

if you want to do something, and you are in a body and mind that can do it, do it! go out and enjoy it! be the “old” man swimming in a speedo, or the “old” woman running a 10K in a sports bra.

write the book that’s been on your mind, try the new activity you see so many “young” people enjoying, start something you always dreamed of doing.

you are wiser and your past experiences bring more to the new experiences that you enjoy. live life and keep growing and expanding, not letting age hold you back keeps you young, and is expanding your life for each experience.

now’s your time! if you feel it, do! you are never to old to keep enjoying many different experiences, both old and new to you. what i want for you, is for you to add some new experiences into your life!

expand and grow, always, until the end of this life experience!

live your truth!

i and myself

who is “i”? who is “myself”?

i was listening the other day and had some awareness to the pieces of me.

have you ever said to yourself, “i was listening to myself”, “i saw myself”, “i thought to myself” or “i found myself.”

i had never wondered who the “i” of me is, and who the “myself” of me is. i started thinking about the pieces of me differently. i am me, and i like to connect to my inner being. is the myself of me my inner being, and the i of me my thinking mind?

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what is the difference between my inner being and my thinking mind?

my inner being is a deep wisdom, truth, energy, source. my inner being knows, believes and trusts. my inner being is calm, serene, positive, and love.

my thinking mind is random thoughts generated from past experience, the now moment, and the future that i want to create. my thinking mind can be positive, negative and everything in between. my thinking mind imagines and wonders “what if”. my thinking mind can get carried away about what isn’t true and become anxious.

having two pieces of me, which me am i the most of? which me do i want to be the most of?

if i am being the “i” of me in my thinking mind, i easily get lost in the daily routines and expectations and live life like a roller coaster.

if i am being the “myself”  of me in my inner being, i am connected to my deepest and truest part of me and live life like i’m flowing with the river.

what part of you are you the most of?

live your truth!

 

intuition

something that i want to develop more is my intuition.

recognizing my intuition and listening to it, following it.

how does intuition show up in your life?

in my life it’s the little nudges, i should grab … i should call… i might want this…

when do you listen to your intuition? when don’t you listen to your intuition?

on this journey of expanding my awareness to intuition one of the triggers that is sometimes true for me when i’m not listening to my intuition is that i’m choosing a “should” instead of a “want”.

i’ve noticed that when i’ve chosen not to follow my intuition i was second guessing myself, pushing myself to do something that didn’t feel comfortable.

how does it feel when you are listening to your intuition? and when you’re not?

i felt anxious, like i had done something wrong and had to defend my decision when i didn’t listen to my intuition.

when i listen to my intuition i feel positively challenged, and that i was flowing with the river of life and connected to my inner being.

what does your intuition tell you?

live your truth!

give to yourself

what do you want from your relationships? your friendships, marriage, family, personal acquaintances, business acquaintances, people you meet on the street and may or may not great. what do you want from your relationship with yourself?

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the things that you want from your different relationships; love, trust, openness, laughter, silliness, support, motivation, encouragement, vulnerability, candid, adventure, patience, understanding, listening, non-judgement, acceptance, giving, fun, growth, inspired, excitement, safety, comfort. do you know what these things are?

what do you want from the people in your relationships? are you being what you expect them to be? give yourself the gift of being who you want people in your relationships to be.

become who you want to be!

live your truth!

what do you enjoy?

i love sitting on my steps and seeing green! trees and green beyond. sunshine shining, reflecting, dancing, shimmering and glittering on the leaves. listening to twittering birds and insects hums. i love nature and sitting outside and getting immersed in it.

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what do you enjoy?

what gives you peace?

what makes you happy?

enjoy that today.

live your truth!

what do you want?

in my coaching class i answered questions as if i was beginning coaching with a coach. it was good to reflect and to connect to my dreams and desires. it was good to prepare as if i was going to coaching.

preparing like i was actually going to be coaching will help me to move forward and give me accountability to myself.

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i have questions on my mind for discovery of what i want and what i can do to move forward in certain areas of my life. i have actions that i want to take. i am aware of what’s most import to me and what my challenges to focus on right now are.

i have a clearer thought and image of what i want and what i will do in the next 6 months and the next 30 days. i know where to direct my energy.

  • who do you want to be?
  • what do you want to do?
  • what do you want to experience?
  • what goals, dreams and desires do you want to accomplish in the next 6 months?
  • what do you want to accomplish, change or create in the next 30 days?

live your truth!

enthusiasm missing?

how life events and experiences effect me are intriguing. i’m thinking and wondering know what my vision, my dreams and desires. i’m excited about all that i want, and i want it all…

i don’t feel the enthusiasm i once did, i don’t feel as connected as i once did.

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luckily i know and realize i can choose to be enthusiastic and i can visualize and imagine more than i have been. i realize life happens and i change and grow in life.

so… i choose to be enthusiastic! i choose to imagine and visualize what i want! i choose to connect!

what do you want? are you enthusiastic about it? are you imagining and visualizing it? are you connected to it?

choose!

live your truth!

simplify

it’s august, the end of summer quickly nearing. the summer days of being care-free didn’t come for me, is summer here and gone already?

the moments of noticing time going so fast is when i really step back and want to simplify life and allow it to slow done. ssllloooowwwww down.

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what can i let go to be able to enjoy some of those care-free moments? honestly though, i want more than a moment, i want a day, a week, a month…

i want to go beyond care-free and live a life of relaxed calm, enjoying and sharing life and all it’s great moments in relaxed calm.

maybe that isn’t really what i want. i want growth, and growth comes with challenges of getting from where i am now to where i want to be. maybe the relaxed calm is living in awareness, choosing with definiteness of purpose for what i want to create, and being grateful for all that surrounds me.

simply live. live in awareness. live in positive choice. live in gratitude. live in love.

will you join me?

let’s let go of all the daily tasks and to-do’s and create a new list:

  • awareness
  • choose positive
  • gratitude
  • love

live your truth!

life is easy

life is easy.

life is easy? can it be? life is filled with challenges and obstacles. life is filled with wants, and more wants. i’m sure that you can give me a list of wants that you have right now, and you can tell me how they all seem to be just out of your grasp.

wants out of your grasp create feelings of overwhelm as you think about the lack of what you want, giving you stress, anxiety and fear.

how much do you truly want this want? how often do you think of this want? are your thoughts positive or negative? yes, there is a difference in wants. you have positive feeling wants and you have negative feeling wants.

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a negative feeling want, can be a positive feeling want. if you are thinking about the want and feeling the lack of it, it is a negative feeling want, you are doing more to push the want away than to bring it closer to you.

when you are feeling negatively towards your wants you see all the challenges and obstacles. you see these as blocks and allow them to slow you down or to stop you in the pursuit of your want.

a positive feeling want is a want that you think about with positive desire, feeling happy and grateful that you choose to create the want in your life. feeling connected, high energy, enthusiasm and excitement for how you will feel when you have this want.

when you are connected to your wants positively, life is easy. when you are thinking positively about your wants you open yourself to opportunities to create what you want. energy is flowing to you and through you. you are inspired to take action.

i imagine that you can look back at the wants that you have had in your life and tell me about some that were negative feeling and took a long time to get the want. i also imagine that you can tell me about positive feeling wants you now enjoy that came to you easily.

what do you want now? is it a negative feeling want or a positive feeling want?

choose to think positively about what you want. connect to how you will feel living with this want and let the positive feelings give you energy, enthusiasm and excitement to create what you want.

tell me how life is easy for a positive feeling want in your life.

live your truth!