be selfish

what is it to be selfish? what comes to your mind? what feelings do you have around being selfish?

i challenge you to have positive feelings about being selfish and to become incredibly selfish.

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being selfish is prioritizing you, what’s most important to you, and most importantly taking care of you. when you take care of you, you are more available to care and give to others. you are able to be present in the moment.

have you ever done what i have (and still do at times) – run around to get things done for you and others in your family, and when you think you are going to sit down and relax a little you remember a list of household chores you “need” to get done and family “needs” that only you can do?

it leaves me feeling depleted with no energy for myself or for others, i’m not able to give to those most important to me (including myself) what i truly want to give – being fully present.

stop doing all those “need to-dos” and become selfish. add selfishness into your life to become more, and be able to give more.  prioritize yourself for 5 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour, a whole day. prioritizing yourself reinvigorates and rejuvenates you.

you will be able to be fully present for yourself and for the other people most important in your life. and those pesky “need to-dos” get done too and don’t seem so pesky anymore.

what is it that you can do to become selfish? what have you wanted to do and haven’t done lately? take a walk, soak in the tub, read a book, go fishing, play a favorite game, get a massage, go out for coffee, enjoy a favorite hobby, enjoy a favorite sport, take a nap…

what will you do this week to be selfish?

live your truth!

You First

Do you please other first? or yourself first?

Pleasing others before yourself and trying to make others happy is something that many people do. It is most important to do what pleases you and what is in alignment with your values. Doing what’s most important to you gives you energy and enthusiasm to do what you want for others. Doing what’s most important to you is taking care of yourself so that you can take care of the most important people in your life.

Pleasing yourself first is a small difference, but a very significant difference. Giving yourself some pleasure, just starting with 5 minutes a day, gives you a boost of energy and enthusiasm for the other activities you choose for your life. When you put yourself first, the activities you have chosen remain a joy to you, and don’t become a burden and a weight on your shoulders.


Do something for yourself each day. You can begin with taking 5 minutes for something that you enjoy. What do you enjoy? Is it reading, yoga, drawing, dancing, sitting silently with coffee, connecting to the Earth outside, writing, sewing, doing a puzzle, chatting with a friend, finding a new recipe on the internet, or learning to juggle? Choose something you enjoy and do it for 5 minutes today.

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to do

I am overwhelming myself with all that I want to do and with all that I think I have to do.

It is time for me to take a moment and prioritize, to refocus.

  • What is most important to me?
  • What can I let go?
  • Will doing this empower me?
  • Will doing this empower others?
  • How will doing this make me feel?
  • What do I truly want?
  • What can I leverage?
  • What can I change?
  • Who do I want to be?
  • What do I want to do?
  • What do I want to experience?

These questions help me to refocus my energy on what is most important to me. There are “busy work” things that I do need to do for living my life, but when I have thought about my priorities and connected to what’s most important to me I shift to doing with a sense of urgency.


I am able to let go the overwhelm and anxiousness I was feeling and allow the desire and positive energy feelings into my doing. I feel happy and grateful for all that I have that creates my to do list.

With this shift I am able to do more, to accomplish more, my energy isn’t wasted on worrying and doubt.

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you worrying, feeling anxious or doubt? Are you feeling positive focused energy? Are you happy and grateful?

If you need a shift, ask yourself: What’s most important to me? Am I being empowered? What can I play with and change? What do I want to experience?

Live Your Truth!

What’s Most Important to You?

What is most important to you?

Family, being outside, enjoying your hobby, health, exercise and nutrition, wealth, abundance, freedom, giving, making a difference?

Why is what you chose most important to you? What do you want to feel having and/or enjoying what is most important to you?

Are you experiencing what is most important to you?



I have been asking myself these questions as I feel change coming towards me in my life. I don’t know what or how the change is going to be, how big a change it will be, but I feel it. There are things that I am unsatisfied with, and for me to continue living my truth, I need to be sure that I am doing what is most important to me.

We are growing and changing all the time, every day, every moment. Are you allowing the flow of growth and change, or are you fighting and blocking it? I ask myself this, when I ask myself, “Am I doing what’s most important to me?”

I’m doing a lot of what’s important to me, I am enjoying many pieces of my life, but there is more for me to enjoy. There is more that I want to do, more that I want to be, and more that I want to experience so that I am doing what is most important to me now.

And so I ask myself, “What can I do to enjoy what is most important to me?” And, “Who can I be so that I am doing what is most important to me?”

“We are always becoming, we are always creating. Today I am more than I was yesterday, tomorrow I am more than I am today.”

What can you do to enjoy what is most important to you?

Who can you be to do what is most important to you?

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What Priority

What are your priorities today? Are your priorities what you want them to be, or are they what somebody else wants them to be? Are you spending your time doing what makes you happy, doing what you enjoy?


Are your priorities today the same as your goals? Are you spending time on things that will move you in the direction of your goals, of the things that you want?

“Goals. There’s no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There’s no telling what you can do when you believe in them. And there’s no telling what will happen when you act upon them.” ~Jim Rohn

Goals are parts of our life journey that bring joy and fulfillment to our lives. Think about your goals, the goals that spark a flame within you. Make taking action towards your goal a priority today.

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Where are you?

Where are you? Do you know where you are in your life right now?

Are you where you want to be? Are you doing what you want to do?


To get to where you want to be you need to know where it is that you are starting from. Do you know where you are?

Knowing your values and your priorities gets you to where you want to go.

Your values are your foundation and guidance system. When you know what your values are and what they mean to you, you make choices that are in alignment with who you are and that guide you to where you want to be.

Your priorities help you to know what to focus on, what to give your energy to. When you know your priorities you guide your day and take action to grow and become who you want to be and do what you want to do.

Stephen Covey says “(Values) are the source of our passions in life, and they help us determine where we focus our energies.”

Your values are a belief that is meaningful to you.

  • What makes you happy?
  • What gets you excited?
  • What activities do you enjoy doing?

Do you know what your values are? Define your values, know where you are, and then make choices to go where you want to go – being who you want to be, doing what you want to do and experiencing what you want to experience!

Live Your Truth!