what’s important to you?

what’s important to me? do i think about that? do i make what’s important to me my priority?

am i living the way i want to live? am i living my truth?

what is important to me? who do i want to be? what do i want to do? what do i want to experience? how do i want to live?

i want many things. i want to be many things. i want to do many things. i want to experience many things.

but…

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how often do i find my thoughts focused on the lack, what’s missing, what i don’t have, the lack of what i want.

if i’m focusing on the lack, i’m not putting my time and attention, my focus, on what’s important to me. what i want.

it’s only important because i make it so. and so i need to keep doing my best to keep my focus and attention and what i want, what’s most important to me.

if i allow my thoughts to stay focused on the lack when i become aware that my thoughts wandered off to thinking about the lack. then aren’t i choosing to make that important?

that’s not what i want. i don’t want the lack.

i want what i want, and i’m going to have it. i want to be who i want to be. i want to do what i want to do. i want to experience what i want to experience.

it’s important to me, and so i’m going to make it so.

what’s important to you? are you focused on what you want? who you want to be. what you want to do. what you want to experience.

what’s important to you? if it’s important to you, then make it so.

choose what’s important to you, and when your mind wanders to lack, choose what you want again. choose what’s important to you again, choose what you want again, choose again, and again, and again…

live your truth!

do you trust you?

trust.

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do you trust yourself?

do you trust yourself to create the life that you want?

do you trust yourself to make choices that put you first?

do you trust yourself and let go to being who you want to be?

do you trust yourself and let go to doing what you want to do?

do you trust yourself and let go to experiencing what you want to experience?

trust.

let go of something and trust yourself a little more today!

live your truth!

who am i?

are you connected to who you are? who you want to be?

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do you have or know what your internal compass is? what are your values and what’s most important to you? your values and what’s most important to you guide you.

what is your purpose and passion for living your life? your purpose is for you and you alone, to share only as you may wish.

what do you want to do?

what experiences do you want to have? why do you want to have those experiences?

is that what you are living? is that what you are choosing?

live your truth!

what do you like?

i like

  • sunshine and nature
  • coffee in the morning, wine in the evening
  • pleasure and sex
  • connecting to those most important to me
  • books and reading
  • intimate conversations with big questions
  • writing and journaling
  • being active, especially kayaking
  • quiet time to myself
  • personal growth

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what do you like?

when do you enjoy what you like currently in your life?

where can you add doing more of what you like into your life?

what will doing more of what you like feel like to you?

what will doing more of what you like mean to you?

do more of what you like.

live your truth!

letting go

i love summer and seeing the trees full of their leaves. i like to watch the leaves shining, shimmering as they dance and reflect the sun. i too love the pieces of me, dancing and moving together reflecting the different pieces of me and who i am.

i am not always happy to see the leaves falling, and i resist the thought of summer and fall passing into winter. what am i resisting in my life? what pieces of me am i holding onto that i need to let go to allow for growth?

why do i resist? the trees don’t resist the letting go of their leaves. it is nature. it is natural. it is intended for growth to let go and allow for change.

 

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what do i need to let go? the change of seasons indicates that letting go for being and new growth is needed. i need change for my being and growth too.

it’s not easy to let go some pieces of you, even the pieces you don’t want, they are connected to you, a part of you. i have experienced, letting go allows for growth.

and so i do so again. this time, not so graciously, i put up a fight. i kicked and screamed. i allowed myself to do the kicking and the screaming, i allowed all that energy to flow through me. and when i was done, i let it go.

i let it leave me, i decided that i could feel it and that i didn’t have to hold onto it.

right away i felt lighter. right away i felt freer. right away i felt new positive energy coming in to create and grow in the direction that i want to go.

i was being truer to myself and allowing more of me to be who i want to be, allowing more of me to do what i want to do, and allowing more of me to experience what i want to experience.

it’s interesting to me that as the trees have lost their leaves, i too have lost some pieces of me. i let go what needed to be let go to allow for my being and growth. i let go what i needed to let go to live my truth.

what change do you want? what do you need to let go?

live your truth!

be selfish

what is it to be selfish? what comes to your mind? what feelings do you have around being selfish?

i challenge you to have positive feelings about being selfish and to become incredibly selfish.

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being selfish is prioritizing you, what’s most important to you, and most importantly taking care of you. when you take care of you, you are more available to care and give to others. you are able to be present in the moment.

have you ever done what i have (and still do at times) – run around to get things done for you and others in your family, and when you think you are going to sit down and relax a little you remember a list of household chores you “need” to get done and family “needs” that only you can do?

it leaves me feeling depleted with no energy for myself or for others, i’m not able to give to those most important to me (including myself) what i truly want to give – being fully present.

stop doing all those “need to-dos” and become selfish. add selfishness into your life to become more, and be able to give more.  prioritize yourself for 5 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour, a whole day. prioritizing yourself reinvigorates and rejuvenates you.

you will be able to be fully present for yourself and for the other people most important in your life. and those pesky “need to-dos” get done too and don’t seem so pesky anymore.

what is it that you can do to become selfish? what have you wanted to do and haven’t done lately? take a walk, soak in the tub, read a book, go fishing, play a favorite game, get a massage, go out for coffee, enjoy a favorite hobby, enjoy a favorite sport, take a nap…

what will you do this week to be selfish?

live your truth!

give to yourself

what do you want from your relationships? your friendships, marriage, family, personal acquaintances, business acquaintances, people you meet on the street and may or may not great. what do you want from your relationship with yourself?

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the things that you want from your different relationships; love, trust, openness, laughter, silliness, support, motivation, encouragement, vulnerability, candid, adventure, patience, understanding, listening, non-judgement, acceptance, giving, fun, growth, inspired, excitement, safety, comfort. do you know what these things are?

what do you want from the people in your relationships? are you being what you expect them to be? give yourself the gift of being who you want people in your relationships to be.

become who you want to be!

live your truth!

what do you want?

in my coaching class i answered questions as if i was beginning coaching with a coach. it was good to reflect and to connect to my dreams and desires. it was good to prepare as if i was going to coaching.

preparing like i was actually going to be coaching will help me to move forward and give me accountability to myself.

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i have questions on my mind for discovery of what i want and what i can do to move forward in certain areas of my life. i have actions that i want to take. i am aware of what’s most import to me and what my challenges to focus on right now are.

i have a clearer thought and image of what i want and what i will do in the next 6 months and the next 30 days. i know where to direct my energy.

  • who do you want to be?
  • what do you want to do?
  • what do you want to experience?
  • what goals, dreams and desires do you want to accomplish in the next 6 months?
  • what do you want to accomplish, change or create in the next 30 days?

live your truth!

judging to gratitude

I was down and I was judging myself, thinking about all the things that I failed to do, all the things that I wanted to do and wasn’t disciplined enough to do them. thinking about the things that I want. feeling them missing. feeling the lack of all I want in my life. judging what I should have or could have done differently to not have failed and had the outcome that I wanted.

feeling the negative creates the desire, gratitude and appreciation for the positive. I  started thinking about what I want, and that turned my judging into gratitude. it changed my attitude for the day from negative to positive. I feel focused and a sense of urgency to accomplish tasks instead of the stress and overwhelm that I was feeling about all I need to and want to do.

thinking about what I want created a shift of focus from judging to gratitude.

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what creates the gratitude feeling? thinking about your wants – who you want to be, what you want to do, what you want to experience and why you want those things. building the image of your dreams and desires, your goals and visions. getting the image clearer and clearer in your mind. and then bringing it into the present moment asking, what is most important now?

it’s a letting go and an allowing. it’s an opening to the God/Universe and not trying to control. it’s being aware of where you are, accepting that it is, and knowing where you want to go and taking action to get there.

for me, thinking about what I want, then what is most important to me, allowed my mind to get clear and focus on what I can do to move forward. I was connecting to myself.

I connected with my inner being. I switched the thoughts of judging to thoughts of who I want to be, what I want to do, what I want to experience, and what I can DO to be who I want to be, do what I want to do, and experience what I want to experience.

what I know is that challenge is growth. my negative feelings are a challenge to me, negative feelings are an indicator that who you are, what your’re doing is different than what you want to do, who you want to be. connecting to that awareness is the beginning of growth. deciding what you are going to do to create what you want is growth in action. habits and routines help to create more and more action.

what’s most important to you now? what action are you going to take?

live your truth!

mid-life what?

my mind was wandering around what it is that i want to experience in life. i’m ready for a big change, something more, something more fulfilling, something purpose filled.

a mid-life transformation. i would call these questions and the changes that i want to make a mid-life transformation. or maybe with how fast our world changes today, i can label it a transformation, clean and simple.

transformation, a time that you really connect to who you are and live your truth being who you want to be, doing what you want to do and experiencing what you want to experience.

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  • who do you want to be?
  • what do you want to do?
  • what do you want to experience?

a time when you are digging deep and connecting to your inner most dreams and desires. a time that you find your purpose and passion for living your life.

a time of finding what your internal compass is. what are you values? what’s most important to you? do you let your values and what’s most important to you guide you?

what experiences do you want to have?

why do you want to have that experience?

how do you want to feel in that experience?

is that what you are living?

is that what you are choosing?

life changes. life changes slow, life changes fast. have you changed with life? are you doing what you want to do and experience? are you living your truth?